you make me unbeautiful.

Sunday, May 17, 2009 @ 6:50 AM

remember this.

HURT FEELINGS.
In a loving relationship, there are often hurt feelings. We have certain expectations of our partner, and when they do not live up to them we are likely to feel a sense of betrayal. The truth is that if we put our hurt aside for a moment we may realize that our lover was not even aware of the expectations that we had for them. These expectations are probably a carryover of fantasies that we have in our heart of how a perfect lover behaves. It is OK to have these expectations. However, if we expect our partner to fulfill them for us we must at let them know what we would like.

MISSING SOMEONE.
When someone you love has left you there is a feeling of missing a part of yourself. Like one who has had a limb removed, you constantly reach for the phantom lover. You may wish for this uncomfortable feeling to leave you so that you can function properly. However, the truth is that the place in you heart the feels a sense of lacking represents the hole where your relationship goes. It is natural to feel that you miss the person the belongs in you life.

HEARTBROKEN.
When someone you love has left you there is a feeling of missing a part of yourself. Like one who has had a limb removed, you constantly reach for the phantom lover. You may wish for this uncomfortable feeling to leave you so that you can function properly. However, the truth is that the place in you heart the feels a sense of lacking represents the hole where your relationship goes. It is natural to feel that you miss the person the belongs in you life.

FORGIVENESS.
Forgiveness in a relationship of love is essential. We all make mistakes and we must make amends and fix the relationship. There is a certain sadness in breaking the illusion of the perfect relationship. However, for those that pass the hurdle of forgiveness, they will find that their relationship is stronger and more meaningful than ever before. Before the first fight, the relationship is like a fagile egg. Once that illusion is broken the relationship becomes much stornger. You become aware that your relationship can survive a disagreement.

ANGRE.
When we are in love it feels like it will be forever. We put all our trust in the person we are in love with and we share our darkest secrets. When we feel that our beloved has not lived up to our expectations we are left feeling angry and bitter. The feelings of betrayal that ex-lovers feel are some of the strongest feelings of hatred and anger that are expressed in the world. Ex wives and husbands often can not even be in the same room together. Two people that once shared the same bed and most intimate secrets cannot even have a civil conversation.

LONELINESS.
After a breakup, there is a great feeling of loneliness that overcomes us. For so long, we felt that we were a part of something bigger than ourselves. Suddenly we are left with the realization that we no longer have another to lean on. The loneliness is overwhelming. We have become used to having someone with us all the time. We probably made all our decisions together. To suddenly be alone after intense togetherness is a very lonely feeling.

LOST LOVE.
The loss of a lover, whether because they have passed on or for any other reason is a heartbreaking experience. Some never fully recover. There might always be a small place in your heart that holds the pain of this experience. This is natural and fine. Even when you find another person to love, it is OK to hold a place for the lover that has passed. You shared something profound together. The previous relationship that you had is not like your new relationship. Every relationship is unique and should be allowed a place in your heart.

EMILY.

im blissfully attached. im 14. hate me? get out off my blog baby. im CHIJ st. joseph convent. im an eye-candy. i love hotpink. haha. im friendly but i can be nasty.

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